We see this issue written in some novels, even in some YA today. What would you do if your teen who just got her first drivers license issued to her, wanted to date a guy who is old enough to drink?
Read one parents delimma and tell me what would you do? How would you handle this? Would you allow this? Would you try to stop it?
Q: I’m having a hard time knowing how to handle my daughter’s relationship. She is 16 and wants to date a man who is 21. I think there is something wrong with this. I don’t know why he would be interested in a girl this young.
A: A younger girl dating an older guy comes with assumptions. He’s pressuring her to have sex. He likes having control over her. He will introduce her to drugs and alcohol prematurely. However, these stereotypes may not apply here. Your daughter may be ready to date a guy who is more mature than high school guys, or maybe she just has more in common with him than she does with guys her age. Either way, this relationship could be good for her.
While there is evidence that girls dating older guys are more likely to face relationship violence and to abuse substances, relationships are not statistics. It would be a mistake to order your daughter not to date him just because you think dating an older guy is “risky.” That choice would be like throwing away an apple because there MIGHT be a worm in it. Read more HERE