This is going to be super long. I apologize for length but I feel this is something heart breaking and every parent needs to hear about it. A few days ago I was enlightened about a new story, about a teen taking her life. It has happened again where the teen was harrassed in not only reality but in the virtual world too. When is teasing, and harrassing just gone Way TOO FAR?
I have been teased throughout grade school and middle school. Then my parents let me and my older sibling transfer schools and it seemed to disappear.
It seems to me schools aren't only an educational place, but also a horrible social hell for most teens now a days. Who is there to stop this though? Teachers have enough on their plate, from being underpaid, to dealing with school testing scores being jammed down their throat everytime they have a minute to breathe. It's unfair, but as a parent which most are, shouldn't they have some control over the students? I think the problem with today is we let kids turn to these social circles and torment or bully others that aren't in their group or below them because we've seen this cycle continue from year to year to year.
Then their is the parents involved, I think parents should monitor their internet a little more. Put passwords on the internet so the child can't get onto it twenty-four seven without your permission. I understand that this might seem a bit exterme but given the recent cases I think it is nescessary.
As for the sites I believe there should be a monitor that will not display, or send harmful messages, or curse words to any child, or teen's wall. making it difficult for harrassment to take place in the virtual world.
As for the cell phone companies, same thing, but also to the parents, why does your child need txt messaging? My mother in law did this to her seventeen year old daughter who wanted a cell phone and then then the youngest thirteen that wanted one as well she gave them phones but cut off the text messages, and picture messages off so they could receive nor send them.
What do you think as a parent about this? Who is to blame? How far is too far? How do you deal with it?
I will post more solutions in the next segment.
My son was bullied in Christian school then Public school. Even though I worked, I worked it out to volunteer at the school every other Friday for 3 hours. Also, I taught my son coping skills by similating different events. I also told him if he had to defend himself than he had my permission to do so. In addition, I put him in Tae Kwon Do and boxing. It helped his self-esteem, gave him tools to protect himself, and taught him control. The acting out bully situations with him helped him to figure out how to back out of a situation. At one point though, I had to remove him from the school and send him to 6th grade in another state for the last 3 months of school at his grandmother's charter school (she was the principle). Even though he was the victim in all circumstances (one girl stabbed his hand with a pencil, another boy pulled out a knife on him, and two boys attempted to jump him) they told me that if he got into one more confrontation (whether caused by him or not - he never caused them - he was always approached eyewitnesses conferred with his story) he would be expelled and have to attend 6th grade in night school. We moved to another school district later that year. He's been fine ever since.
What did I do? I pulled him out of the school and now I'm homeschooling him through a charter school.
The school doesn't want to deal with issues. They keep saying 'no money', 'isn't going to happen', 'we're not babysitters,' and a number of other excuses.
Children shouldn't be labeled on the very first day of school--which son's third grade teacher did with my son and told me that he'd probably get suspensed a number of times and that I had nothing to say about it. I was so angry at her I left shaking.
I think this lays the ground for future bullying and harrassment. I was able to pull son out of the system. Some parents don't know they have this option--the assistant principal told me when I said I was going to homeschool him that the district highly discouraged this but it was my right as a parent. I'm like, hell yes it's my right.
All I know is if public schools were a business they'd go bankruped.
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